Tailored Train of Thought

Tailor your train of thought to take over threats.

I recently read a great book (A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles – gifted to me by a dear friend) in which there were a few outstanding points that really resonated:

  • “Man must master his circumstances or otherwise be mastered by them.”
    • “Imagining what might happen if one’s circumstances were different was the only sure route to madness.”
  • “The surest sign of wisdom is constant cheerfulness.”

And I’ve been pondering them ever since I finished.

I regularly battle with my internal thoughts – spending time with your thoughts is critical but making sure the dialogue is positive, and present focused is paramount. The biggest thought pattern threat I wage against is all the what if’s – I find myself regularly down rabbit holes of detailed dialogues and debates over situations that haven’t ever occurred or materialized the way I’m thinking. While it’s not negative self-talk (I’m naturally a positive and confident person) the brain power spent on conversations and action plans that haven’t or won’t ever occur is exhausting, and unnecessary. It takes away from my focus on the present, and I’m working so hard to only give attention to what is immediately at hand.

The core philosophy of the book is true – mastering one’s circumstances, and staying in the present (instead of reflecting on all the past and future what if’s) is the only way to remain sane – dwelling only leads to depression – and that’s a threat I have no time or tolerance for.

To say I loved the book (and the philosophy it depicted) would be a massive understatement – elegant, and thoughtful, beautifully written without being contrived, there was never a moment of stale verbiage, or stuffy backstory. The prose transported you to a time when manners were valued, and care given to one’s appearances. A favorite comparison drawn in the book was to slouching and how a laziness to sit up right reflected a laziness in all things and a general disrespect for those you interacted with. As someone who values manners, grooming and general respectfulness – it was lovely to read something (while from another time period) that reflected a shared sentiment.

For this thoughtfully tailored outfit – I paired my favorite pair of navy dress pants with a classic sheath top and blazer – simple elements, but all of high quality which elevates the whole look. I found these pants on sale at Nordstrom in Chicago last fall – they are the smallest size I think I’ve ever bought, and mandate that I pay stringent attention to what I’m eating before I elect to wear them (which is really helpful when my diet has gotten sloppy and it’s time to be more cognizant). They were a splurge purchase, though they were on sale… but given the designer, they were still pricey. I wear them on days I need to feel especially well dressed. The blazer was a great find this summer at Neiman’s, on sale – I’m really enjoying having a formal deep navy blazer to pair with separates, I’ve already worn it several times for important meetings and events.

**We lucked out on the day of this shoot as due to an incident, Houston PD had the street shut down and the trains halted.**

Train your thinking, and tailor your thoughts to achieve your ambitions.

All my best,

Outfit Details – Pants: St. John Blazer: Kobi Halpern Blouse: Theory  Scarf: Hermès Shoes: Prada Necklace: Pearls Earrings: Pearls Sunglasses: Louis Vuitton  Bracelet:  David Yurman Ring: PERSONAL DESIGN (SUNFLOWER) CREATED BY: RONNY BARNEA –  JEWELRY ON 5TH  Purse: Prada  Perfume: Gold Knight by Killian

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